So, I figured out that one of my passions in life is event planning and that the idea of planning someone’s wedding is definitely on my “to do” list. But while I’m all into David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding show, I’m also wondering about everything that takes place before the actual wedding ceremony and reception.
Now, everyone knows the Jared jewelry commercial where they really do a great job in branding their name and making Jared seem as if it is actually on the level of Tiffany and Company. But c’mon, even if Tiffany’s modern day success if partially because of its legacy and the movie Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Jared can’t compete! I don’t mean to diss’ Jared but they have to really get on the grind with their public relations and marketing if they want women to ask for Jared ring instead of a Tiffany ring. At the same time, I’m feeling that the average working man around my age may only be making 2k net at the least, maybe even less for some.
So, is it wrong for a woman who loves Tiffany and has always dreamed of a Tiffany engagement ring to expect something different? Tis’ the question: to buy Tiffany or not to buy Tiffany? I mean, I know you ladies feel the same way as I do; I want something nice but I don’t want to break this man’s bank! But, on the other hand as I told my best friend Jessica, most men always have some type of money saved up for a rainy day. I even had a friend of 23 years of age saving up money for an engagement ring so that when he did find that special, rare, one-of-a-kind woman he could easily propose to her? I guess I’m going back-and-forth because I want to be fair but really, if someone 23 could think of doing this then why should we hold our significant others to a lesser-standard? I mean, after all don’t we want someone that has discipline to budget his money properly? I figure, if I can say, “Well, instead of going out to dine every other week, I’m going to save or budget my money to do this,” then why can’t he? Not that I’m trying to break up any of your relationships but if your boyfriend doesn’t have the discipline to budget properly, then umm, how can he budget the finances of your household as a future husband and father? It's a good question and I'm not condemning him because discipline can help him get where he needs to be so don't feel as if I'm trying to be a bearer of bad news.
Now, the next thing is about how men express emotion and when finally pops the big question: Baby, will you marry me? All the time, you see on movies how men will make a really huge deal out of asking their woman to marry them because it is a huge deal! Well, when I was a junior I had a class with a young woman who started her own event planning business. I don’t think she mines me writing about her business which is Opal E Event Planning and b.t.w., she’s always been on the up-and-up with everything throughout the whole time I’ve known her. Anyhow, she evens helps with the proposal coordination! I mean, we want something really nice that shows he cares and put some thought into it! It is so easy to research and google search terms like: different ways to propose marriage; romantic marriage proposal ideas; asking a woman to marry you, etc. But if all else fails, they can get someone to help them so we shouldn't settle for less.
So, we have Tiffany not Jared and romantic proposal vs. non-romantic proposal. Not asking for much but for now, I'll digress. Oy vey! LOL.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Beware of Buying Candles at Burlington Coat Factory!
Well, I’m not a big fan or Burlington Coat Factory (BCF). It’s not a bad store but you just have to be careful about what you buy there because certain things, like scented candles are just plain unscented! Anyhow, one day my mom asks me to go to BCF with her and she’s my mom so I really don’t like to hang out with her like a good friend but never-the-less, I went just to be a good daughter. Off Topic: But why is it that moms sometimes think that they are suppose to hang out with their daughters like they are middle-aged friends? Anyhow, I’m looking around in the store and I pick up a new laundry hamper and then went to look at the scented candles trying to get my aromatherapy on.
I exit the store all happy about my purchase of Bill Blass Candles so elegantly packaged and adorned with a gold organza ribbon with gold piping. I mean, Bill Blass is supposedly the iconic clothing designer of the 1980s so what could be so bad about buying candles from his company? Well, maybe it wasn’t his company but rather the fact that the candles were probably just as old as his company or at least old enough for there not to be any scent whatsoever. I was upset to say the least and told my mom about it and she says, “Well, you can’t buy stuff like that at BCF.” I guess you learn something new everyday. I’m still a campaigner for being a girly-girl and pampering yourself at the end of a long day but buying candles from stores like BCF is not definitely a bad idea. My advice is to stick with Bath and Body Works.
I exit the store all happy about my purchase of Bill Blass Candles so elegantly packaged and adorned with a gold organza ribbon with gold piping. I mean, Bill Blass is supposedly the iconic clothing designer of the 1980s so what could be so bad about buying candles from his company? Well, maybe it wasn’t his company but rather the fact that the candles were probably just as old as his company or at least old enough for there not to be any scent whatsoever. I was upset to say the least and told my mom about it and she says, “Well, you can’t buy stuff like that at BCF.” I guess you learn something new everyday. I’m still a campaigner for being a girly-girl and pampering yourself at the end of a long day but buying candles from stores like BCF is not definitely a bad idea. My advice is to stick with Bath and Body Works.
Monday, August 17, 2009
How Your Sexual History Relates to the Kelly Blue Book
As I’ve said before, there are so many facets to my being that sometimes men simply choose to believe aren’t true or too good to be true. Yeah, I’ve heard this one before and don't buy the "too good to be true" because I'm standing right here. LOL. But it’s taken me some time to realize what was going on but I’ve finally come to figure some things out about the male species. Last week, we were talking about how men respect women who respect themselves and I guess this is kind of a follow-up. I think that black men today have lowered their standard for black women so much, that when they encounter a real women who upholds a standard they can't believe it! I’ve had the opportunity to talk to some real black men in my lifetime and have figured out that a lot of men see a woman’s sexual history as a Kelly Blue Book value.
You know, I don’t know if it’s something innate or sociological but I’m leaning more towards innate. I’m speaking of the fact that men tend to become very protective of the women they care about, especially after they’ve had sexual intercourse with that woman. They tend to see the woman as their prized possession, which the bible does speak of a wife’s body belonging to her husband and vice versa. I remember the movie The Best Man with Morris Chestnut as Lance and Monica Calhoun playing his fiancé named Mia. Lance was just bumpin’ and grindin’ with all these groupie "women", while on the other hand Monica was so faithful and had him as her only sexual partner. Now, I’m not advocating fornication but simply pointing out how Lance became sooooo angry when she had sex with someone else after he’d been with all these women. Granted, it was his best friend so I think that was just awful and very childish of her but because he loved her, he still wanted to protect her. How could he do this when she’s giving the most precious, sacred part of herself away like it was candy? In the same sense, he was wrong but he still was protective of her in all of his shenanigans.
Now, let’s say that you have twins named Jessica and Quiana and both have everything comparable; caring, smart, funny, beautiful eyes, smile, hair, body shape, community volunteerism, college educated, upwardly mobile, etc. Okay, there’s one thing that isn’t comparable though. Quiana Car Fax history shows that 15 men have owned her car before while Jessica Car Fax history says 2? It’s a lot of competition out here so with 7 black men to 1 black woman and with men being who they are anyway; who do you think they are going to choose? I believe it just goes back to human nature; everyone wants something as new and shiny as possible and no one wants to get a used gift. And with the epidemic of HIV going around in my race and the fact that black women are 40% of new HIV cases, it’s more “safe” to choose the Jessica anyway.
In the past, I’ve had much older men say things to me like, “Oh, your so fresh and refined,” and that “a lot of my women my age are damaged.” Gee, I wonder how they became damaged? From men like you who’ve messed over them and then when they are in their late 30s and early 40s, you don’t want them anymore. So, I’m in my early twenties and you are wayyyy older than me and have been bumping and grinding for more years than I’ve been out of High School and NOW, you want someone fresh and refined that’s not damaged? I've learned that certain men are just not going to believe the truth because it makes it easier for them to try and use you; and I'm not into arguing..."just leave em' alone." You ladies already know how I describe our bodies as being the bolt and it’s imperative that along with keeping the outside together that our Kelly Blue Book value and Car Fax report makes the next man you become romantically involved with say, “Danggggg, it’s like that?” or in other words make him say, “wow” because that’s what real kings want…someone rare and beautiful. And if he doesn't belive you, then obviously he's not a real king or "the one" for you!
You know, I don’t know if it’s something innate or sociological but I’m leaning more towards innate. I’m speaking of the fact that men tend to become very protective of the women they care about, especially after they’ve had sexual intercourse with that woman. They tend to see the woman as their prized possession, which the bible does speak of a wife’s body belonging to her husband and vice versa. I remember the movie The Best Man with Morris Chestnut as Lance and Monica Calhoun playing his fiancé named Mia. Lance was just bumpin’ and grindin’ with all these groupie "women", while on the other hand Monica was so faithful and had him as her only sexual partner. Now, I’m not advocating fornication but simply pointing out how Lance became sooooo angry when she had sex with someone else after he’d been with all these women. Granted, it was his best friend so I think that was just awful and very childish of her but because he loved her, he still wanted to protect her. How could he do this when she’s giving the most precious, sacred part of herself away like it was candy? In the same sense, he was wrong but he still was protective of her in all of his shenanigans.
Now, let’s say that you have twins named Jessica and Quiana and both have everything comparable; caring, smart, funny, beautiful eyes, smile, hair, body shape, community volunteerism, college educated, upwardly mobile, etc. Okay, there’s one thing that isn’t comparable though. Quiana Car Fax history shows that 15 men have owned her car before while Jessica Car Fax history says 2? It’s a lot of competition out here so with 7 black men to 1 black woman and with men being who they are anyway; who do you think they are going to choose? I believe it just goes back to human nature; everyone wants something as new and shiny as possible and no one wants to get a used gift. And with the epidemic of HIV going around in my race and the fact that black women are 40% of new HIV cases, it’s more “safe” to choose the Jessica anyway.
In the past, I’ve had much older men say things to me like, “Oh, your so fresh and refined,” and that “a lot of my women my age are damaged.” Gee, I wonder how they became damaged? From men like you who’ve messed over them and then when they are in their late 30s and early 40s, you don’t want them anymore. So, I’m in my early twenties and you are wayyyy older than me and have been bumping and grinding for more years than I’ve been out of High School and NOW, you want someone fresh and refined that’s not damaged? I've learned that certain men are just not going to believe the truth because it makes it easier for them to try and use you; and I'm not into arguing..."just leave em' alone." You ladies already know how I describe our bodies as being the bolt and it’s imperative that along with keeping the outside together that our Kelly Blue Book value and Car Fax report makes the next man you become romantically involved with say, “Danggggg, it’s like that?” or in other words make him say, “wow” because that’s what real kings want…someone rare and beautiful. And if he doesn't belive you, then obviously he's not a real king or "the one" for you!
Saturday, August 8, 2009
He's In Love With A Stripper-The Real Strippers of Detroit Part II
So, here is the follow up and hopefully you'll be able to get through the whole post.
Besides what's been mentioned in previous post, in the stripping industry, oral sex is not “real sex.” So, what happens is that sometimes the men will say, “Ay, baby girl. Let me holla at you after the club.” Now, the strippers know what that means but sometimes things happen in the private room. Let’s remember that we have evil spirits around inducing them to do this behavior. Does it really sound far-fetched to you that evil spirits like activity that does not glorify God? Now, you have men reducing women to their mouths when God didn’t intend for this to be at all. It’s disgusting that they would not look at women for their full value but instead as an object to fulfill their desires but at the same time, they want their daughters and sisters to be respected…yet can’t do it themselves. Now the question is: How many different men will have proposed my cousin in a week? And it's like this, if a light bill needs to be paid or she has to "make ends meet" then it's all good. What man will ever want to kiss her, spend time with her, respect her and let alone marry her knowing she's does all this to other men? I just know that if it was a man going around stripping, performing services for women that I wouldn't want him to touch me with a ten-foot pole. I'd pray for him but I couldn't be with him and that's why The Holy Spirit is constantly telling me to pray for her to get out of this lifestlye.
Now, let’s talk about spirits of perversion. In strip clubs, bisexuality is glorified but men often fail to think about the spiritual aspect. If they are in a strip club and a woman has the spirit of perversion attached to her, don’t they think that advocating this behavior will leave them open to the spirit also? So, the enemy may begin to attack them in their dream life or their mind and they have no idea why. I’ve heard a pastor also say it about pornography; it’s not just a woman that is physically uncovered or naked but also a man and a person’s mind is just like a camera and captures everything. Look at what Lord Jesus says, “ 22"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. 23But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” The Holy Spirit told me that this is not just a figurative saying but really a spiritual one and that when you look at something in an unpure way, you are letting darkness into your body. And last thing about these spirits of perversion; people wonder why little Pookie wound up in a certain lifestyle when he had both parents thinking that is the only way a person can be homosexual. Let’s not forget that Pookie’s father or brother or grandfather carried the spirit of perversion home with him. That’s another story though.
What can we learn from part of my cousin’s experience? Well, we already know that men don’t respect strippers but moreso, the spiritual aspect of it can be reaped for many years. As women, we need to pray for the men in our life because the enemy makes it seem like something alluring or fun. Proverbs 5:3-5 We have to petition and cry out to God on their behalf to keep their steps going down the straight and narrow path because they do tend to admire the visual aspect of women. But when the blood rushes to the wrong places on the body it is not admiration. Also, ask God to speak to them and anoint their eyes, ears, mind, spirit and heart to know His voice and hearken diligently unto His voice. So, let’s say that they do end up going to the strip club with their friend or cousin; The Holy Spirit will be there in their ear talking to them saying, “You shouldn’t be hear,” or they will feel a strong sense of conviction. Also, bind the spirits that God is telling you to in the name of Jesus Christ so they will not be able to work in his life. That’s all I got for now but I pray it has helped you or the man in your life in some way. I'll be back with more so stay tuned.
Besides what's been mentioned in previous post, in the stripping industry, oral sex is not “real sex.” So, what happens is that sometimes the men will say, “Ay, baby girl. Let me holla at you after the club.” Now, the strippers know what that means but sometimes things happen in the private room. Let’s remember that we have evil spirits around inducing them to do this behavior. Does it really sound far-fetched to you that evil spirits like activity that does not glorify God? Now, you have men reducing women to their mouths when God didn’t intend for this to be at all. It’s disgusting that they would not look at women for their full value but instead as an object to fulfill their desires but at the same time, they want their daughters and sisters to be respected…yet can’t do it themselves. Now the question is: How many different men will have proposed my cousin in a week? And it's like this, if a light bill needs to be paid or she has to "make ends meet" then it's all good. What man will ever want to kiss her, spend time with her, respect her and let alone marry her knowing she's does all this to other men? I just know that if it was a man going around stripping, performing services for women that I wouldn't want him to touch me with a ten-foot pole. I'd pray for him but I couldn't be with him and that's why The Holy Spirit is constantly telling me to pray for her to get out of this lifestlye.
Now, let’s talk about spirits of perversion. In strip clubs, bisexuality is glorified but men often fail to think about the spiritual aspect. If they are in a strip club and a woman has the spirit of perversion attached to her, don’t they think that advocating this behavior will leave them open to the spirit also? So, the enemy may begin to attack them in their dream life or their mind and they have no idea why. I’ve heard a pastor also say it about pornography; it’s not just a woman that is physically uncovered or naked but also a man and a person’s mind is just like a camera and captures everything. Look at what Lord Jesus says, “ 22"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. 23But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” The Holy Spirit told me that this is not just a figurative saying but really a spiritual one and that when you look at something in an unpure way, you are letting darkness into your body. And last thing about these spirits of perversion; people wonder why little Pookie wound up in a certain lifestyle when he had both parents thinking that is the only way a person can be homosexual. Let’s not forget that Pookie’s father or brother or grandfather carried the spirit of perversion home with him. That’s another story though.
What can we learn from part of my cousin’s experience? Well, we already know that men don’t respect strippers but moreso, the spiritual aspect of it can be reaped for many years. As women, we need to pray for the men in our life because the enemy makes it seem like something alluring or fun. Proverbs 5:3-5 We have to petition and cry out to God on their behalf to keep their steps going down the straight and narrow path because they do tend to admire the visual aspect of women. But when the blood rushes to the wrong places on the body it is not admiration. Also, ask God to speak to them and anoint their eyes, ears, mind, spirit and heart to know His voice and hearken diligently unto His voice. So, let’s say that they do end up going to the strip club with their friend or cousin; The Holy Spirit will be there in their ear talking to them saying, “You shouldn’t be hear,” or they will feel a strong sense of conviction. Also, bind the spirits that God is telling you to in the name of Jesus Christ so they will not be able to work in his life. That’s all I got for now but I pray it has helped you or the man in your life in some way. I'll be back with more so stay tuned.
Friday, August 7, 2009
He's In Love With A Stripper-The Real Strippers of Detroit Part I
I’ll say it again, “men respect women who respect themselves.” Now, you remember the old cliché, “if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck.” Some women hate to hear this but if you are dressed like a prostitute or stripper, then that’s how people are going to treat you. Some may say, “my clothes don’t define me,” and they may not but clothes do relay information about you. There’s an old rap song called, “I’m in love with a stripper,” more like lust but did you catch the song title? This rapper who produced the song, T-pain said, “I’m in love with a stripper,” as if this occupation defines her whole person. Think about it ladies; all he sees this woman as is a stripper and that is all he loves about her. What about her intelligence, her caring personality, her funny quirks? Obviously, when you are in love with someone you see all of who they are and not just their occupation but this is the only aspect of her he is interested in; her stripping. I doubt that T-pain says about his wife; I’m in love with a real estate investor or a baker and the reason he doesn’t is because he loves everything she represents, not just one part. You don't here people walking around saying, "I'm in love with a lawyer or Executive Assistant," but 9/10 they use the person's name and say, "Yeah, I'm in love with Sherry." This man can't even address this woman by her name cause' he doesn't see her in that aspect and wants to mentally seperate her from who she actually is because just maybe he will see that she is an actual person with a soul. Anyhow, I want to talk about what actually goes on in the physical environment and the spiritual aspects.
Wow…this is a heavy topic that God has given me revelation on but I’ll try to break it down as easily as possible. Well, here’s something you guys don’t know; my cousin is a stripper! Yes, she is a stripper and she does not want to be a stripper. Some of the things I tell you may be too disturbing but I am warning you in advance, it’s not a pretty occupation. Before my cousin could even take off her clothes in front of people she didn’t know, she had to drink a lot of alcohol in order to get a buzz or kind of drunk. Of course you don’t have to wonder why. But she’s revealed some things that really take place and basically, men don’t respect women who strip.Let’s look at the spiritual aspect of what happens in a strip club which many men have no idea. Now, in a strip club there are many spirits of lust, adultery, perversion, etc. I know it scares many Christians when people talk about this but God’s people perish for their lack of knowledge; God wants you to know these things. There are wicked spirits who have certain tasks within the enemy’s kingdom just as God has Archangels, cherubs, etc; remember that Satan copies what God does in the opposite. Read 2 Chronicles 18:18-22 and you will see that God uses even evil spirits to bring forth his purpose and that certain spirits have certain tasks. Is there any question that in an environment where men lust after women, commit adultery physically and in their heart and other perversions that these type of evil spirits will lurk about? What makes it worst is that these men go back home and bring these spirits into their home, with their wife, children, etc so essentially they aren’t only destroying their lives but innocent loved ones are being effected.
Okay, so you think that stripping is the only thing that goes on? Think about it this way; an evil spirit isn’t going to stop inducing men to just look and lust after the stripper, or perhaps touch the stripper but is going to make them try and go as far as the human beings involved will permit. Now, this is what my cousin says; the men which she has stripped for have fondled her and even done things to her vaginal cavity with their hands. This to me is very, very sad and sickening because she does not know these men and even if she did it would be wrong. Secondly, think about how many different men she may dance for in one week; how many men are doing this to her? How many different men are groping her and abusing her body? And then, to think that these men with their unclean hands and fingers have the audacity to go further and mess with her vaginal cavity? All so she can make $25 for a lap dance.
It may be a little heavy for some of you, so I'm splitting this up in different parts.
Wow…this is a heavy topic that God has given me revelation on but I’ll try to break it down as easily as possible. Well, here’s something you guys don’t know; my cousin is a stripper! Yes, she is a stripper and she does not want to be a stripper. Some of the things I tell you may be too disturbing but I am warning you in advance, it’s not a pretty occupation. Before my cousin could even take off her clothes in front of people she didn’t know, she had to drink a lot of alcohol in order to get a buzz or kind of drunk. Of course you don’t have to wonder why. But she’s revealed some things that really take place and basically, men don’t respect women who strip.Let’s look at the spiritual aspect of what happens in a strip club which many men have no idea. Now, in a strip club there are many spirits of lust, adultery, perversion, etc. I know it scares many Christians when people talk about this but God’s people perish for their lack of knowledge; God wants you to know these things. There are wicked spirits who have certain tasks within the enemy’s kingdom just as God has Archangels, cherubs, etc; remember that Satan copies what God does in the opposite. Read 2 Chronicles 18:18-22 and you will see that God uses even evil spirits to bring forth his purpose and that certain spirits have certain tasks. Is there any question that in an environment where men lust after women, commit adultery physically and in their heart and other perversions that these type of evil spirits will lurk about? What makes it worst is that these men go back home and bring these spirits into their home, with their wife, children, etc so essentially they aren’t only destroying their lives but innocent loved ones are being effected.
Okay, so you think that stripping is the only thing that goes on? Think about it this way; an evil spirit isn’t going to stop inducing men to just look and lust after the stripper, or perhaps touch the stripper but is going to make them try and go as far as the human beings involved will permit. Now, this is what my cousin says; the men which she has stripped for have fondled her and even done things to her vaginal cavity with their hands. This to me is very, very sad and sickening because she does not know these men and even if she did it would be wrong. Secondly, think about how many different men she may dance for in one week; how many men are doing this to her? How many different men are groping her and abusing her body? And then, to think that these men with their unclean hands and fingers have the audacity to go further and mess with her vaginal cavity? All so she can make $25 for a lap dance.
It may be a little heavy for some of you, so I'm splitting this up in different parts.
Monday, July 27, 2009
He Says, "I Just Wanted To See How You Were Doing..."
Yep, that’s always how “it” starts…with a simple greeting. I’m talking about the “case of the ex” or anyone that God has taken out of your life for a reason or maybe a season. One of the things I’ve learned is that a man in your life should be there to uplift you and encourage you to grow closer to God; if he isn’t doing that then there’s your answer to get away from him. In one of my first blog postings, I said to take the man’s number instead and pray about it because you can find yourself in messed up situations from giving your number first. I also said that bringing up “God” in a conversation may be able to help you discern where he is spiritually because out of the heart flows the issues of life and that’s what I’ll be talking about today.
Sometimes, we as women make some issues more complicated than they are but as I began to grow closer to God, The Holy Spirit gives me revelations on how to handle certain situations. If you really want to know how or who a person truly is, listen to what they are saying. “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45
As women, we tend to become so used to talking to our girlfriends all the time, that we forget that men don’t communicate in the same way we do. Men tend to communicate (especially when getting to know you) moreso to receive information rather than just for the sake of just talking about any and everything. The Holy Spirit just had to remind me recently to take time and be quiet. Listen to what the man is saying because it will tell you more about him, what is in his heart and remember, “he is not your girlfriend.” If you know what this man has said in the past is wrong, then don't entertain him.
Ladies, you have to guard your heart and that means not communicating with men who are going to bring you down. Yes, you can pray for them but associating with them is not going to help you get to where you need to go. Remember this: Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 or Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. Now, what do you think happens when the springs of life flow from your heart and you entertain the idea of letting a sinful man creep back into your life? Because as I write this, it’s not just for you but it’s for me too and we all know that sin kills or the wages of sin are death…unrepented sin not under the blood of Jesus Christ. What I am saying is that you are entertaining accepting death into your heart. All it takes is one conversation, one phone call, one “let's have dinner” for you to be back in a situation that God has already taken you from.
See, the enemy likes to make things easy for you because broad is they way of destruction. But truly living for God is not easy but we have God’s spirit sustaining us. Ladies, we need to check ourselves from thinking “Oh, I just need a man to talk to and be with right now,” knowing that this man in his early 20s, doesn’t believe in following God’s word like you do and not even thinking about the slightest possibility of being married. So, what do you really think is going to happen after a couple of months of establishing a “bond” with this man and I’m not just talking about sex. Your relationship with God is going to be severely effected because his heart is somewhere else, in a place that doesn’t want to encourage you to grow. A person that is truly sent by God will always want to help you be better and grow closer to God, while they are doing the same. I am telling you personally that evil communications corrupt good manners but you don’t have to let it happen because you won’t be close enough to hear whatever this man is telling you. When you get that phone call, letter in the mail or email, don’t respond. Just remember that God is faithful and sees your faithfulness too and will give you a man better than you could’ve dreamed who will cover you as your husband.
Sometimes, we as women make some issues more complicated than they are but as I began to grow closer to God, The Holy Spirit gives me revelations on how to handle certain situations. If you really want to know how or who a person truly is, listen to what they are saying. “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45
As women, we tend to become so used to talking to our girlfriends all the time, that we forget that men don’t communicate in the same way we do. Men tend to communicate (especially when getting to know you) moreso to receive information rather than just for the sake of just talking about any and everything. The Holy Spirit just had to remind me recently to take time and be quiet. Listen to what the man is saying because it will tell you more about him, what is in his heart and remember, “he is not your girlfriend.” If you know what this man has said in the past is wrong, then don't entertain him.
Ladies, you have to guard your heart and that means not communicating with men who are going to bring you down. Yes, you can pray for them but associating with them is not going to help you get to where you need to go. Remember this: Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 or Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. Now, what do you think happens when the springs of life flow from your heart and you entertain the idea of letting a sinful man creep back into your life? Because as I write this, it’s not just for you but it’s for me too and we all know that sin kills or the wages of sin are death…unrepented sin not under the blood of Jesus Christ. What I am saying is that you are entertaining accepting death into your heart. All it takes is one conversation, one phone call, one “let's have dinner” for you to be back in a situation that God has already taken you from.
See, the enemy likes to make things easy for you because broad is they way of destruction. But truly living for God is not easy but we have God’s spirit sustaining us. Ladies, we need to check ourselves from thinking “Oh, I just need a man to talk to and be with right now,” knowing that this man in his early 20s, doesn’t believe in following God’s word like you do and not even thinking about the slightest possibility of being married. So, what do you really think is going to happen after a couple of months of establishing a “bond” with this man and I’m not just talking about sex. Your relationship with God is going to be severely effected because his heart is somewhere else, in a place that doesn’t want to encourage you to grow. A person that is truly sent by God will always want to help you be better and grow closer to God, while they are doing the same. I am telling you personally that evil communications corrupt good manners but you don’t have to let it happen because you won’t be close enough to hear whatever this man is telling you. When you get that phone call, letter in the mail or email, don’t respond. Just remember that God is faithful and sees your faithfulness too and will give you a man better than you could’ve dreamed who will cover you as your husband.
Friday, July 3, 2009
“Ladies, watch out for those seductive love songs!”
I don’t think I would do any of you single Christian women out there in cyberspace any justice if I didn’t bring up the topic of “love” songs. So, I’m a sucker for the old school R’B love songs; the ones that talk about real love not all this crap made now-a-days. Well, not everything is crap because just this recently, I was in the car with my best friend listening to the radio and a song by Musiq Soulchild came on. Some of you may not be R’B fans but the song is called, “So Beautiful” and I’ll post the lyrics later on. The tone of the song was extremely too seductive for ME during that time but you have to judge for yourself when certain songs are making your flesh weak.
Even though we are Christian women, we are still women and that means we are made of flesh. Being that we are made of flesh, we have desires for the opposite sex and that’s the way God has made us. Since we know this, then we must be aware that as women there are certain things that can arouse you or dwell in your mind without you even knowing it. If you are sitting in the car and a specific song comes on, take into account how you feel when listening to the song and also if you feel a “Holy Spirit Check-up” happening. He knows what you can handle and what you can’t, which is why we need to be aware to what he is saying. Sometimes, I just turn off the radio to see what he is saying or affirming in my spirit about a certain thing and in this instance, a song.
In “So Beautiful” we have lyrics that every woman would love to hear from her man-ahem-her husband. What woman doesn’t want to hear she’s beautiful and that she pleases him in and out of the bedroom? You’re sitting up listening to this song but inside, you’re thinking, “Wow…that sounds really nice,” and before you know it, you are in extreme longing for the opposite sex. Again, it’s nothing wrong to desire the opposite sex but you don’t want to let your flesh get out of control
Oh-my-gosh ladies! I know it isn’t easy but I just believe that if you carefully guard your heart, it will be worth it in the end. God is going to honor your faith, submission, obedience and sacrifice meaning that when you are married, you will have husband to say all of those wonderful things and more. Just continue to watch those seductive songs and take into consideration what The Holy Spirit is saying.
Even though we are Christian women, we are still women and that means we are made of flesh. Being that we are made of flesh, we have desires for the opposite sex and that’s the way God has made us. Since we know this, then we must be aware that as women there are certain things that can arouse you or dwell in your mind without you even knowing it. If you are sitting in the car and a specific song comes on, take into account how you feel when listening to the song and also if you feel a “Holy Spirit Check-up” happening. He knows what you can handle and what you can’t, which is why we need to be aware to what he is saying. Sometimes, I just turn off the radio to see what he is saying or affirming in my spirit about a certain thing and in this instance, a song.
In “So Beautiful” we have lyrics that every woman would love to hear from her man-ahem-her husband. What woman doesn’t want to hear she’s beautiful and that she pleases him in and out of the bedroom? You’re sitting up listening to this song but inside, you’re thinking, “Wow…that sounds really nice,” and before you know it, you are in extreme longing for the opposite sex. Again, it’s nothing wrong to desire the opposite sex but you don’t want to let your flesh get out of control
Oh-my-gosh ladies! I know it isn’t easy but I just believe that if you carefully guard your heart, it will be worth it in the end. God is going to honor your faith, submission, obedience and sacrifice meaning that when you are married, you will have husband to say all of those wonderful things and more. Just continue to watch those seductive songs and take into consideration what The Holy Spirit is saying.
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