All over the United States, there are black women (and men) suffering in silence because of what happened to them while they were children. Well, I want to let you know that God loves you and it was not in His will for anyone to ever physically or sexually abuse, molest or attempt to tamper with your innocence. Okay, I have a friend that would be a bit ashamed for to tell you all this herself but while she was growing up men had attempted to molest her.
When you are growing up and someone trys to molest, rape or abuse you in some way it can really effect who you become as an adult. You might think it doesn't effect you but in all likelihood, it does. So, I asked her, "Do you think you have issues with men because of what happened to you?" I'm paraphrasing but she said that basically, she doesn't trust many men even when it seems that they are legit. Of course, all women should be cautious when it comes to men but if The Holy Spirit has revealed to you the true character of a man, don't be a victim again when God has already told you that the man won't hurt you. For my friend, it's just an issue that God is helping her to deal with and each day she is growing to trust again. It's something like an in and out coming tide: at one moment she may feel hersef growing an attachment to a man but at the next instance, she's struck with the past and how virtually every man she ever met only wanted to use her. And it makes it no better that each time she's tried to step out and form something serious, men have tried to use her again and again.
Now, the main culprit who harrased my friend did so over a period of ages 11-14 but for some of you it may have happened at younger ages. Either way, God didn't want that to happen to you. The person that tried to harm you was not in God's will and was being used by the enemy to keep you from being all God intended. But I'm telling you; it doesn't have to be that way. God can release any shame or guilt you may feel. It was not your fault, please remember that. I know that like most victims, you are probably wondering "Why me?" I'm not exactly sure but I do know a savior that says you can cast your cares on Him.
God wants you to be happy, to live an abundant life not having to think about something someone did to you 10 years ago. Yes, it hurts badly but all your hurts and pains God can take them away. And eventually, you will be brought to a point where you can forgive this person for what they did. So, here is a sample prayer that you can follow:
"Dear Lord, I come to you humbly saying thank you for all you are doing in my life. Thank you for continually being with me Lord, even when no one else is there and I feel all alone. God, you know what *insert names of predator/s* tried to do to me. God, it may have happened long ago but I find myself still being affected by it and I know you want me to be healed. I don't want to cry anymore or wonder why or let this issue come up anymore in my life. I know that one day you will bring me a wonderful King and I don't want to miss out on him because of this issue of my past. So please God, take away my fears, my tears and my pain and heal my emotional wounds by the stripes of Jesus Christ. I believe it's possible and everytime you see me getting emotional over what *insert name of predator* has done, let your love wash over me and comfort me by your Holy Spirit. And even though it hurts, I forgive *insert predator* and ask that you bring them to a point where they are given a new spirt, heart and that you renew their mind. In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, Amen."
Friday, May 29, 2009
Thursday, May 28, 2009
The Preciousness of a Woman's Body
Okay, it may seem a bit different but sometimes I just simply ponder on how God made things and how it fits together with life itself. So, I was speaking to a Christian associate of mine and he asked, "You know, I wonder sometimes why God made man to like sex so much?" I can't remember what I said at that time but 9 times out of 10 a healthy young man or even not so young tend to desire sexual activity moreso than young women or older women . But this time, I wanted to speak on the preciousness of a woman's body.
I've heard the saying before, "Don't let just anyone park their car in your carage." Of course, we are talking about garages literally but the saying is so true. I was reading on a Christian message board one time and a woman was saying how a woman's genatalia can be assumed to be a bolt and how a man's genatalia is sort of like a screw. I'm paraphrasing but she said that (and I believe it to be true) but intercourse is sort of like a giving and receiving which is why women really need to be careful so they don't end up being screwed!
In all seriousness though, a woman's body is not equipped to handle many different screws or sizes and shapes of penises. This is just the simple nature of things and is why I always admonish you not to give in to temptation. Maybe you think you are so young and fair now at 24 or 25 but what about when you are 34 or 35? What if you don't get married until then? I've known young women who are only around 27 that have had almost thirty male partners which means a partner for more years than she's been on this earth. At this point and as a confessed Christian, she desires to cease this activity but has shown no improvement because only submitting to God's spirit can help you overcome temptation. At one point, she told her then partner who became sick to his stomach and could not even talk to her after finding this information out and now they are no longer together.
Why am I saying all this? Well, hopefully to stop any of you from constantly being screwed. Your body was not made to receive all of these different men like this and what kind of package are you going to have to give your future husband should you ever get married? It's sad to say that most men go around screwing women or sowing their oats and then hope to find that young, beautiful virgin to marry but it's true. But whatever your state of bodily purity, try to remember that your body is precious and God made you wonderfully so make sure you treat yourself this way and that everyone you encounters treats you wonderfully. Don't throw your pearls to swine ladies; save them for your Boaz!
I hope this is helpful to anyone doing google searches so I will start putting tags at the bottom.
I've heard the saying before, "Don't let just anyone park their car in your carage." Of course, we are talking about garages literally but the saying is so true. I was reading on a Christian message board one time and a woman was saying how a woman's genatalia can be assumed to be a bolt and how a man's genatalia is sort of like a screw. I'm paraphrasing but she said that (and I believe it to be true) but intercourse is sort of like a giving and receiving which is why women really need to be careful so they don't end up being screwed!
In all seriousness though, a woman's body is not equipped to handle many different screws or sizes and shapes of penises. This is just the simple nature of things and is why I always admonish you not to give in to temptation. Maybe you think you are so young and fair now at 24 or 25 but what about when you are 34 or 35? What if you don't get married until then? I've known young women who are only around 27 that have had almost thirty male partners which means a partner for more years than she's been on this earth. At this point and as a confessed Christian, she desires to cease this activity but has shown no improvement because only submitting to God's spirit can help you overcome temptation. At one point, she told her then partner who became sick to his stomach and could not even talk to her after finding this information out and now they are no longer together.
Why am I saying all this? Well, hopefully to stop any of you from constantly being screwed. Your body was not made to receive all of these different men like this and what kind of package are you going to have to give your future husband should you ever get married? It's sad to say that most men go around screwing women or sowing their oats and then hope to find that young, beautiful virgin to marry but it's true. But whatever your state of bodily purity, try to remember that your body is precious and God made you wonderfully so make sure you treat yourself this way and that everyone you encounters treats you wonderfully. Don't throw your pearls to swine ladies; save them for your Boaz!
I hope this is helpful to anyone doing google searches so I will start putting tags at the bottom.
Friday, May 22, 2009
On Being A Virtuous Women
In order to glorify God, which is my purpose here on earth, I have a desire to be a virtuous woman. As I was reflecting on this beauty, The Holy Spirit spoke to me and said, "You can be." At this point, I want to speak about the role of a woman in marriage. I understand more of my role as a woman and in the future, a wife and mother. The more I know God, the more I know the kind of creature that He made me to be and understands that the world does try to corrupt the sanctity of womanhood as well as marriage. This is one reason I can't fall-in line with much of the feministic values of the 21st century; too much of it goes against the basis of what God has ordained.
Many times, women usually frown at the word submitt especially when used in marriage. This word is often purposely misconstrued by of course, the enemy. But submission is a God-given concept and can be seen throughout the whole earth. Think about it; there are CEOs, directors, managers, etc. There are commanders, lieutenants and sergeants along with large corporations, small businesses and consumers. Even in the spiritual realm, there are ranks of angels - holy and fallen. Jude 1:9; Ephesians 6:12. Could you imagine if everyone just made decisions and no one submitted to anyone? It would be complete chaos. The purpose of submission is to smooth relationships out and make them conducive or reduce tension/strife. Does it mean you have to give up your brain and have no say so? Of course not; what it means is that if a wife has a dispute with her husband, then out of honor for God she would submitt only if it doesn't disobey God. When you have The Holy Spirit, it's becomes easy to do the things which the world or feminists may seem as crazy.
Though men also have to submitt. In 1 Corinthians 11:3, St.Paul said, "and I wish you to know that of every man the head is the Christ, and the head of a woman is the husband, and the head of Christ is God." See, one thing I understand is that when I choose to submitt to my future husband it is also submitting myself to Jesus Christ and God. That's why it becomes easy because in my heart, I don't see it with natural eyes but rather with spiritual ones; my future husband would be led by Christ.
18And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18 God then made several different beasts and brought them to Adam and finally, He put Adam in a deep sleep and made Eve. I believe that God alredy knew He would make Eve but displayed more of His glorious power and creativity by making more animals and also allowing Adam to see that nothing else was fit for Him. For instance, it's a pleasure for a parent to see how their child learns, interacts and grows. If a parent is playing with Legos or wooden shapes with their child, then they might give them everything but the right shape in order for the child to see that nothing else fits. Then, at the end they would give them the right block piece and finally, everything comes together. That's why, even unto this day thousands of years later, men seek out women who they would deem worthy of marriage. It's an innate drive and pursuit that they enemy can not stop or at least he can not diffuse the whole majority of men to defer from God's will to not be alone.
As a virtuous women (in training) there are some things I already possess and some that The Holy Spirit is teaching me now. It's just not enough for me to be a beautiful woman physically, because there are plenty of beautiful women. But as R.A. Vernon said, "So, you look good and got a body-well, so does she and her and yeah, oh her too," and it true! I love being beautiful and glorifying God through my outer image but at the same time, I desire to always be humble having a beautiful heart and virtuous characteristics. In the long run, those along with being in the center of God's will is what will sustain your marriage.
Many times, women usually frown at the word submitt especially when used in marriage. This word is often purposely misconstrued by of course, the enemy. But submission is a God-given concept and can be seen throughout the whole earth. Think about it; there are CEOs, directors, managers, etc. There are commanders, lieutenants and sergeants along with large corporations, small businesses and consumers. Even in the spiritual realm, there are ranks of angels - holy and fallen. Jude 1:9; Ephesians 6:12. Could you imagine if everyone just made decisions and no one submitted to anyone? It would be complete chaos. The purpose of submission is to smooth relationships out and make them conducive or reduce tension/strife. Does it mean you have to give up your brain and have no say so? Of course not; what it means is that if a wife has a dispute with her husband, then out of honor for God she would submitt only if it doesn't disobey God. When you have The Holy Spirit, it's becomes easy to do the things which the world or feminists may seem as crazy.
Though men also have to submitt. In 1 Corinthians 11:3, St.Paul said, "and I wish you to know that of every man the head is the Christ, and the head of a woman is the husband, and the head of Christ is God." See, one thing I understand is that when I choose to submitt to my future husband it is also submitting myself to Jesus Christ and God. That's why it becomes easy because in my heart, I don't see it with natural eyes but rather with spiritual ones; my future husband would be led by Christ.
18And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18 God then made several different beasts and brought them to Adam and finally, He put Adam in a deep sleep and made Eve. I believe that God alredy knew He would make Eve but displayed more of His glorious power and creativity by making more animals and also allowing Adam to see that nothing else was fit for Him. For instance, it's a pleasure for a parent to see how their child learns, interacts and grows. If a parent is playing with Legos or wooden shapes with their child, then they might give them everything but the right shape in order for the child to see that nothing else fits. Then, at the end they would give them the right block piece and finally, everything comes together. That's why, even unto this day thousands of years later, men seek out women who they would deem worthy of marriage. It's an innate drive and pursuit that they enemy can not stop or at least he can not diffuse the whole majority of men to defer from God's will to not be alone.
As a virtuous women (in training) there are some things I already possess and some that The Holy Spirit is teaching me now. It's just not enough for me to be a beautiful woman physically, because there are plenty of beautiful women. But as R.A. Vernon said, "So, you look good and got a body-well, so does she and her and yeah, oh her too," and it true! I love being beautiful and glorifying God through my outer image but at the same time, I desire to always be humble having a beautiful heart and virtuous characteristics. In the long run, those along with being in the center of God's will is what will sustain your marriage.
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