How Your Sexual History Relates to the Kelly Blue Book

As I’ve said before, there are so many facets to my being that sometimes men simply choose to believe aren’t true or too good to be true. Yeah, I’ve heard this one before and don't buy the "too good to be true" because I'm standing right here. LOL. But it’s taken me some time to realize what was going on but I’ve finally come to figure some things out about the male species. Last week, we were talking about how men respect women who respect themselves and I guess this is kind of a follow-up. I think that black men today have lowered their standard for black women so much, that when they encounter a real women who upholds a standard they can't believe it! I’ve had the opportunity to talk to some real black men in my lifetime and have figured out that a lot of men see a woman’s sexual history as a Kelly Blue Book value.

You know, I don’t know if it’s something innate or sociological but I’m leaning more towards innate. I’m speaking of the fact that men tend to become very protective of the women they care about, especially after they’ve had sexual intercourse with that woman. They tend to see the woman as their prized possession, which the bible does speak of a wife’s body belonging to her husband and vice versa. I remember the movie The Best Man with Morris Chestnut as Lance and Monica Calhoun playing his fiancé named Mia. Lance was just bumpin’ and grindin’ with all these groupie "women", while on the other hand Monica was so faithful and had him as her only sexual partner. Now, I’m not advocating fornication but simply pointing out how Lance became sooooo angry when she had sex with someone else after he’d been with all these women. Granted, it was his best friend so I think that was just awful and very childish of her but because he loved her, he still wanted to protect her. How could he do this when she’s giving the most precious, sacred part of herself away like it was candy? In the same sense, he was wrong but he still was protective of her in all of his shenanigans.

Now, let’s say that you have twins named Jessica and Quiana and both have everything comparable; caring, smart, funny, beautiful eyes, smile, hair, body shape, community volunteerism, college educated, upwardly mobile, etc. Okay, there’s one thing that isn’t comparable though. Quiana Car Fax history shows that 15 men have owned her car before while Jessica Car Fax history says 2? It’s a lot of competition out here so with 7 black men to 1 black woman and with men being who they are anyway; who do you think they are going to choose? I believe it just goes back to human nature; everyone wants something as new and shiny as possible and no one wants to get a used gift. And with the epidemic of HIV going around in my race and the fact that black women are 40% of new HIV cases, it’s more “safe” to choose the Jessica anyway.

In the past, I’ve had much older men say things to me like, “Oh, your so fresh and refined,” and that “a lot of my women my age are damaged.” Gee, I wonder how they became damaged? From men like you who’ve messed over them and then when they are in their late 30s and early 40s, you don’t want them anymore. So, I’m in my early twenties and you are wayyyy older than me and have been bumping and grinding for more years than I’ve been out of High School and NOW, you want someone fresh and refined that’s not damaged? I've learned that certain men are just not going to believe the truth because it makes it easier for them to try and use you; and I'm not into arguing..."just leave em' alone." You ladies already know how I describe our bodies as being the bolt and it’s imperative that along with keeping the outside together that our Kelly Blue Book value and Car Fax report makes the next man you become romantically involved with say, “Danggggg, it’s like that?” or in other words make him say, “wow” because that’s what real kings want…someone rare and beautiful. And if he doesn't belive you, then obviously he's not a real king or "the one" for you!

He's In Love With A Stripper-The Real Strippers of Detroit Part II

So, here is the follow up and hopefully you'll be able to get through the whole post.

Besides what's been mentioned in previous post, in the stripping industry, oral sex is not “real sex.” So, what happens is that sometimes the men will say, “Ay, baby girl. Let me holla at you after the club.” Now, the strippers know what that means but sometimes things happen in the private room. Let’s remember that we have evil spirits around inducing them to do this behavior. Does it really sound far-fetched to you that evil spirits like activity that does not glorify God? Now, you have men reducing women to their mouths when God didn’t intend for this to be at all. It’s disgusting that they would not look at women for their full value but instead as an object to fulfill their desires but at the same time, they want their daughters and sisters to be respected…yet can’t do it themselves. Now the question is: How many different men will have proposed my cousin in a week? And it's like this, if a light bill needs to be paid or she has to "make ends meet" then it's all good. What man will ever want to kiss her, spend time with her, respect her and let alone marry her knowing she's does all this to other men? I just know that if it was a man going around stripping, performing services for women that I wouldn't want him to touch me with a ten-foot pole. I'd pray for him but I couldn't be with him and that's why The Holy Spirit is constantly telling me to pray for her to get out of this lifestlye.

Now, let’s talk about spirits of perversion. In strip clubs, bisexuality is glorified but men often fail to think about the spiritual aspect. If they are in a strip club and a woman has the spirit of perversion attached to her, don’t they think that advocating this behavior will leave them open to the spirit also? So, the enemy may begin to attack them in their dream life or their mind and they have no idea why. I’ve heard a pastor also say it about pornography; it’s not just a woman that is physically uncovered or naked but also a man and a person’s mind is just like a camera and captures everything. Look at what Lord Jesus says, “ 22"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. 23But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” The Holy Spirit told me that this is not just a figurative saying but really a spiritual one and that when you look at something in an unpure way, you are letting darkness into your body. And last thing about these spirits of perversion; people wonder why little Pookie wound up in a certain lifestyle when he had both parents thinking that is the only way a person can be homosexual. Let’s not forget that Pookie’s father or brother or grandfather carried the spirit of perversion home with him. That’s another story though.

What can we learn from part of my cousin’s experience? Well, we already know that men don’t respect strippers but moreso, the spiritual aspect of it can be reaped for many years. As women, we need to pray for the men in our life because the enemy makes it seem like something alluring or fun. Proverbs 5:3-5 We have to petition and cry out to God on their behalf to keep their steps going down the straight and narrow path because they do tend to admire the visual aspect of women. But when the blood rushes to the wrong places on the body it is not admiration. Also, ask God to speak to them and anoint their eyes, ears, mind, spirit and heart to know His voice and hearken diligently unto His voice. So, let’s say that they do end up going to the strip club with their friend or cousin; The Holy Spirit will be there in their ear talking to them saying, “You shouldn’t be hear,” or they will feel a strong sense of conviction. Also, bind the spirits that God is telling you to in the name of Jesus Christ so they will not be able to work in his life. That’s all I got for now but I pray it has helped you or the man in your life in some way. I'll be back with more so stay tuned.

He's In Love With A Stripper-The Real Strippers of Detroit Part I

I’ll say it again, “men respect women who respect themselves.” Now, you remember the old cliché, “if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck.” Some women hate to hear this but if you are dressed like a prostitute or stripper, then that’s how people are going to treat you. Some may say, “my clothes don’t define me,” and they may not but clothes do relay information about you. There’s an old rap song called, “I’m in love with a stripper,” more like lust but did you catch the song title? This rapper who produced the song, T-pain said, “I’m in love with a stripper,” as if this occupation defines her whole person. Think about it ladies; all he sees this woman as is a stripper and that is all he loves about her. What about her intelligence, her caring personality, her funny quirks? Obviously, when you are in love with someone you see all of who they are and not just their occupation but this is the only aspect of her he is interested in; her stripping. I doubt that T-pain says about his wife; I’m in love with a real estate investor or a baker and the reason he doesn’t is because he loves everything she represents, not just one part. You don't here people walking around saying, "I'm in love with a lawyer or Executive Assistant," but 9/10 they use the person's name and say, "Yeah, I'm in love with Sherry." This man can't even address this woman by her name cause' he doesn't see her in that aspect and wants to mentally seperate her from who she actually is because just maybe he will see that she is an actual person with a soul. Anyhow, I want to talk about what actually goes on in the physical environment and the spiritual aspects.

Wow…this is a heavy topic that God has given me revelation on but I’ll try to break it down as easily as possible. Well, here’s something you guys don’t know; my cousin is a stripper! Yes, she is a stripper and she does not want to be a stripper. Some of the things I tell you may be too disturbing but I am warning you in advance, it’s not a pretty occupation. Before my cousin could even take off her clothes in front of people she didn’t know, she had to drink a lot of alcohol in order to get a buzz or kind of drunk. Of course you don’t have to wonder why. But she’s revealed some things that really take place and basically, men don’t respect women who strip.Let’s look at the spiritual aspect of what happens in a strip club which many men have no idea. Now, in a strip club there are many spirits of lust, adultery, perversion, etc. I know it scares many Christians when people talk about this but God’s people perish for their lack of knowledge; God wants you to know these things. There are wicked spirits who have certain tasks within the enemy’s kingdom just as God has Archangels, cherubs, etc; remember that Satan copies what God does in the opposite. Read 2 Chronicles 18:18-22 and you will see that God uses even evil spirits to bring forth his purpose and that certain spirits have certain tasks. Is there any question that in an environment where men lust after women, commit adultery physically and in their heart and other perversions that these type of evil spirits will lurk about? What makes it worst is that these men go back home and bring these spirits into their home, with their wife, children, etc so essentially they aren’t only destroying their lives but innocent loved ones are being effected.

Okay, so you think that stripping is the only thing that goes on? Think about it this way; an evil spirit isn’t going to stop inducing men to just look and lust after the stripper, or perhaps touch the stripper but is going to make them try and go as far as the human beings involved will permit. Now, this is what my cousin says; the men which she has stripped for have fondled her and even done things to her vaginal cavity with their hands. This to me is very, very sad and sickening because she does not know these men and even if she did it would be wrong. Secondly, think about how many different men she may dance for in one week; how many men are doing this to her? How many different men are groping her and abusing her body? And then, to think that these men with their unclean hands and fingers have the audacity to go further and mess with her vaginal cavity? All so she can make $25 for a lap dance.

It may be a little heavy for some of you, so I'm splitting this up in different parts.